"Fatherhood is a precious thing, but it's a mistake when only the positive counts."

Albert:Hearing my children's heartbeat for the first time, their birth, hearing them breathe while they are calmly asleep, hearing their first words, the first conversation with Nil on the phone, me at work and him telling me how his day went, the hug when he got home, Liam's first steps, the “Papa t'estimo molt, fins al cel” (Dad I love you so much, to heaven) It's hard to define with words what fatherhood means to me, but it is a mixture of intense emotions, a journey in which you discover something every day, a constant opportunity to want to improve, to do it well, in short, a kind of unconditional and unique love.

Since I became a father there are many things that have changed in me, dark circles, tiredness, sleep, change of routines, lack of space for oneself, for the couple... Paternity is something precious, but it is a error when only the positive is counted, but like any path... if it is difficult: it is worth it.

A:Well, I don't know if it's myths, but prejudices. I have heard everything, nonsense like saying that men are less involved in parenting because that is how it is in our DNA (we must also have in our DNA to go hunting and make a fire in the cave, I say, right?), that the role of the father must be that of discipline, that we do not suffer emotional changes... All this added to the complete absence of the father figure by a sector of brands, in advertisements or products related to babies. Until recently, the most important fair in Barcelona was called “Bebes & Moms” I don't want to imagine how excluded a family with two parents could feel, please, enough of stereotypes and roles.

The fathers who enjoy everything that surrounds paternity fight against two factors: those that make us invisible and those that believe that we are less men for worrying about the upbringing of our children, the fight is served!

But on the other side of the coin, as a discovery, I have met people who are in the same stage of my life, coworkers, friends, family, all also parents, and who love to share and discover sites, share them, exchange information and discuss concerns. Every day there are more parents who give visibility to all this and I am sure that every day more will be added.

A:With the first child and already in pregnancy, not having experience, there are always insecurities, it is one of the most important things that will happen to you in life and you want to do it well and no matter how much you inform yourself, doubts and more doubts always fly over. With the second it is different, at least I feel more confident, besides, already having a first one makes you organize yourself better logistically, you know what you have to take and what not to take with you when you go out, which products work well and which ones you are not going to use in life. Also when you have to worry and when you have to worry a little less... yes, whether it's the first or the second, the learning is still constant.

A: I would tell you that each and every one of the books that I have read on fatherhood have given me a vision of which paths to choose, but really, the most valuable source and the one that I have valued most are the experiences of other fathers and mothers that I know and who are going through the same stages as us: advice, calls, curiosities or simply commenting on what has gone well for some and what has gone wrong for others. There is nothing more honest than talking to another parent with the same stains on their shirt and a pocket full of used Kleenex.

A: That's a very good question. During parenthood we have gone through different stages, some of sleeping very little and not being able to get to everything as we would like, but nobody said that raising two children was easy and housework is something that is complicated. It must always be clear that you cannot achieve everything, at least for a while. That said, the organization in our house is based on sharing the tasks; one puts the dishwasher, the other manages the purchase, one throws the garbage, the other vacuums, one organizes the clothes, the other tidies the room with them, the kitchen, gardening, managing doctors, organizing what we do on the weekend, if diapers are needed , if there is apiretal … and a long etc. It is something that we have always pushed forward the best we have known, although the house is never as it was before becoming parents. Once I was asked a very good question-reflection, you have three options:

1- House 2-Couple 3-Children and you can only choose two of the three as priority

Which ones do you choose? And the answer gives you the solution to survive (or not) parenthood.

A: I have always had a passion for going to the movies, as a child, for me it was a very special moment. Now I'm starting to go with Nil (3 years old) and he loves it, he lives it a lot and I see that version of me with his age staring intently at the screen waiting for the movie to start. I am also dying to make plans that I made in my childhood with my family, specifically to go to two places: a small mountain village called Àreu, and on the coast: Port de la Selva. I hope we can go soon!

A dad anecdote to share?

A: Well, if we talk about disgusting anecdotes… everything has happened to me, but everything. Once we all went to eat at a friend's house, I had Nil sitting on my lap and well, he made a huge shit that went through everything, my pants were very stained, and of course, the boy had a change of clothes, but I didn't, so stop eating with everyone, go wash off the mess, hang out the clothes, ask for pants. A disaster!

Another thing that always embarrasses me, as a total new parent, is that when we went to ask for the first time to vaccinate the child, they told us that there were two types of vaccines: free and paid. We make an appointment and the day of the vaccinations arrives, we go to the doctor (nervous also as it is the first vaccinations) and we say that they should give him both... at this point I take out my wallet and say: I will pay with a card, the nurse burst out laughing and he explained to us that no, that we had to bring the paid ones from the pharmacy. What a shame and what a novice I felt!

Well, I can recommend:

1. Museu de les Aigues in Cornellá, apart from the museum there are activities with water in the garden area for children, highly recommended.
2. Museo del Ferrocarril in Vilanova, I haven't been and I really want to go.
3. Go camping. Last year we were at Camping Miramar and I really want to go back. Vintage caravans are very cool.
4. Beach and pool, I can't wait to see Liam expend energy giving it his all by taking a dip this year for the first time.
5. I really want to go to Parc Francesc Macià in Malgrat de Mar, it is a park with giant sculptures. They have spoken very well to me.

Out of curiosity… where does the name of your Instagram account come from?

Hahaha I tried a thousand names, a thousand ways and nothing… in the end I almost didn't even make an Instagram account and it's just… it's all been made up! And it was saying that phrase and I said, well, you know what? I stay with this. The funniest thing is that there are people who know me as “invented-state” “state!” But what state? I don't know why they read it wrong and call me that.

I invite Noelia from @happy.ohana Since I know you know how to bring out the personal side of people on IG, I'm curious what you can ask this cool family. If there is an attitude to have in parenting, it is positivity and good vibes. They are excellent ambassadors of this lifestyle. I send you a hug from here!

Well family we have reached the end. Little to add because we are still having a laugh between the anecdotes and the "invented state" of Albert. It is a luxury for us to be able to share with you the experiences of real-life moms and dads, without filters or edits. That is why we invite you to recommend accounts that are cool to you to gossip who is a little further and then tell you about it here. Good weekend to everyone! By the way, we'll be waiting for you on Instagram to read your comments and if you're not following @estatodoinventado you can't wait another second.

Arrivederci!!!

Ahhh and if you wanted to complete the family puzzle, you can read Alba's interview in just one click. Of course, we warn you that some things have changed in his professional life 😉

Now yes, arrivederciii..